No matter whether your wedding will have twenty guests or 200, the stress of making sure everything goes perfectly on the big day is monumental. All your careful planning and preparation has led to this day, and you want everything to be perfect. While it’s all with the best of intentions, that pursuit of perfection can suck the fun out of your wedding day. In all the hustle and bustle and careful timing, it’s easy to lose sight of why you’re doing this in the first place.
Take a deep breath, and remember that you’re making all these plans to celebrate the start of your new life with your beloved. That’s wonderful, and definitely something to be joyful about! Even if you’re a high-strung person by nature (we can relate!), there are things you can do to make your wedding day more enjoyable and fun. Here, we’ll talk about how to prepare yourself for your wedding day and share some helpful tips to keep you in the moment, even if things don’t go according to plan.
Trust Yourself and Your Planning Skills
Of course you should put plenty of effort into planning your wedding. Making sure you’ve accounted for everything goes a long way to ensuring your big day goes according to plan. That said, it’s also important to allow room for things to go wrong. For example, it’s a good idea to make a backup plan for things to go awry. For example, if your wedding will take place outdoors, make a plan for what you’ll do if it rains. If something falls through, make a plan for how you’ll respond. Having a backup plan in place will help you relax and give you confidence that everything will be okay, no matter what happens.
We should be clear that we don’t mean you should plan everything to death! Once you’ve set up your plans, step back and let them work. It won’t do any good to agonize over the details — trust yourself and the plans you’ve made. Regardless of how your wedding day goes, you are still going to wake up next to your beloved the next day as husband and wife. Remember that monumental good, and the rest will come together.
Practice Being Mindful
In the time leading up to your wedding, try to get in the habit of grounding yourself when things get stressful. This can be especially helpful if you’re naturally a worrier, but it can benefit anyone. Mindfulness can mean different things for different people, so don’t be discouraged if a particular technique doesn’t suit you. Keep trying different things until you find what helps you relax and refocus. This can be hugely beneficial if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
When you’re feeling stressed, take a moment for yourself. Breathe deeply, closing your eyes if necessary. Take notice of what your body is doing, noticing where you’re carrying tension and breathing into those muscles. Focus on your breathing, the rhythm it creates, the gentle pauses in between breaths. Imagine your thoughts as waves on the shore, coming in in crests before drifting back out to sea. When you’re ready, open your eyes and step back into your activities.
Stay In the Moment
It can be difficult to remember to be present when you’re feeling stressed out. Anxiety has a way of getting us in our heads, so it’s important to remind yourself to focus on the things that are important. You are getting married and starting a life with the person you love most in this world, and that’s amazing! Focus on them and the happiness you share, and the details won’t seem so overwhelming.
As much as you want to (and should!) focus on your beloved, it can also be helpful to draw from the joy of friends and family as they share your day with you. Cherish the moments you spend with the people close to you, because that’s what all this is for at the end of the day. Whenever you find your mind wandering to all the things that could go wrong, redirect your focus to the moment you’re in and the people you’re sharing it with.
Your wedding day should be one of celebration and joy, and keeping that in mind is one of the best ways to have fun! Once you’ve planned every detail and set your proverbial ducks in a row, relax and let it be. Even if something wildly unexpected happens, you have a whole team of loving, supportive people around you to help you navigate this. You, and your team, have got this!